Monthly Archives: June 2014

Can I whinge briefly?

I need to see my dentist today, ASAP.  I also need to see my podiatrist today, ASAP.

I really, really don’t need this right now. Oh well, At least I have doctors I can afford to see, and a job that I can take a day off from.

And I had a brilliant weekend.

Trying to understand

There are some things I feel the need to talk about. However, I also feel that the discussion of them isn’t much helped by me (a cisgendered, passes-for-white, male) chiming in – I have the privilege of being able to do so without getting a target painted on me, but I’m not sure that I can actually do any good, given that. I want to understand – in order to combat it – the insane amount of hate that I see leveled at outspoken women, transpeople of any gender, and really, anyone who doesn’t fit the white, mainstream “norm”. The level of vitriol is stupendous, and I truly don’t understand how the people who are spewing it can honestly believe the stuff they say (granted, I’ve the same disconnect when it comes to belief in deity).  I’m no longer surprised that it happens, but I do tend to have a visceral reaction to it. I want a way to channel that into something more than retweeting people who write better than I do and signing the occasional online petition. Feedback – really of any sort – would be helpful, should anyone reading this be so inclined.

When all my problems fade into proper perspective.

Jay Lake died today.

He was a good friend. I knew him fairly well, but nowhere near as well as I would have liked. He was one of the most fun people I’ve ever known, he was sharp, funny and a fantastic writer. I didn’t get to spend anywhere near enough time with him – no one really did, I think.

As hard as I try, I can’t really say things the way I want.

He is missed. By me, by all his friends who knew him, by his family and sweeties, by his peers and co-workers. He wasn’t here long enough, dammit.